Flirting we all do it, consciously and unconsciously. What flirting means and how to do it is explained here. With these tips you can learn to flirt even better.
Learning to flirt
Flirting is for both men and women and yes, you can learn it. Flirting is always about teasing, challenging or humor. As long as you incorporate one of these facets with what you say then you are flirting. The important thing here is how you say it rather than what you say. In fact, nonverbal communication is the most important thing a woman pays attention to.
It is simply a game where you make the other person feel good. Sometimes it has a purpose, but it can also have no purpose at all. In most cases, we flirt naturally (unconsciously). For example, you smile at the other person for a moment or you mirror the other person. By being alert to your own flirting signals you can practice this.
Non-verbal flirting
In most cases, flirting starts with nonverbal communication or in other words, we send out flirtation signals with our bodies. Body language is charisma. How you use your body also determines how comfortable you are in your skin.
Establishing eye contact is an important nonverbal signal. It is a safe and effective way to make contact and show that you like that person and also find out if the other person likes you too. Once the “eye-flirt game” is going well, it is easier to make small talk.
Successful flirting involves rapprochement. You get closer and closer to each other each time. Personal/intimate space is then entered without retreating. Touching also plays an important part in this. Often women tend to touch their hips or face with their fingers.
It becomes a lot more intimate the moment we touch each other’s hands. Beforehand, some more general touching always takes place. In this nonverbal way, as it were, permission is asked.
Research has also shown that the way you deliver a message with your body language is up to five times more effective than saying it with an opening sentence, for example.
Attracting women by flirting
It all starts with flirting. Anyone can get good at it. Flirting is the secret of attraction and yes women love men who flirt. It makes men come across with assurance and is a piece of “masculinity.
The biggest mistake men make is making you too needy too quickly and then you come across as ‘needy’. Women who feel that. Constantly looking for approval. The combination of masculinity and flirting makes a woman want you. It creates that connection.
Anyone can pick up women as long as you are confident on the inside and that is how you will come across. Coming across as doubtful creates insecurity. It shows in your appearance. It does not radiate masculinity. In short, it starts with your body language with which you flirt.
Flirting with WhatsApp
Flirting is also important when you’re going to app. Flirting on WhatsApp even when you’ve just gotten her number keeps the conversation going and that positive tension there.
WhatsApp is all about teasing her with fun, and jokes so that she keeps reminding herself why you are so nice.
The best and funniest messages on WhatsApp are pictures. These elicit more emotion than just text and often elicit a reaction. Therefore, funny pictures and videos do very well.
Do not use too many smileys, as this can make you look more childish than you really want.
What you absolutely should not send are things like “how are you?”, “how was your day?”, “do you remember me?” etc.. These are simply boring messages that will give you a boring conversation with no excitement. Most importantly, they are all questions without adding anything.
Patience is also a virtue. You won’t always get an immediate response to your flirt messages. Be patient she may also just be busy and the response will take a while.
Flirting signals from women
During flirting, several signals are given to attract attention. Women often take the first initiative contrary to popular belief. Intuitively, most women know how to flirt. Only men do not always recognize these flirting signals from women.
Below we have listed some of the flirtation signals women give:
Moistening lips or pursing lips
When she does this she is thinking about kissing, it can also mean she wants to kiss you. This also includes when she puts on lipstick.
Laughing hard
She laughs at you even though it’s not funny.
Smiling
If she is constantly smiling heartily, it may be an indication that she likes you.
Straighten or hollow her back
Rolling her back emphasizes her body shape and makes her breasts appear larger. She wants to appear attractive to you.
Touching own hair
A kind of nervous touch is that she is touching her own hair with which she uses her appearance as a flirtation weapon. Throwing her head back also falls under this.
Long and frequent eye contact
Longer than normal eye contact means she likes you. In short she is looking for your attention.
Touching the other person
If she touches you for no apparent reason she likes you. The more intimate the spot, the more she likes you.
Standing just a little closer than usual
She stands closer to you, or in other words she seeks contact with you. Often the closer she stands the more she likes you.
Mirroring
For example, grabbing your glass at the same time as the other person.
When a woman gives one of these signals doesn’t always mean she is flirting right away. There is a good chance that it is also happening subconsciously and just doing it because it is convenient.
Flirting seems difficult, but by nature everyone has it in them so it is almost unconsciously automatic.